THE PROBLEM
OF PURITY

VIOLET M. FIRTH

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VIOLET M.

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CONTENTS

CHAPTER PAGE

Foreword ..... 7

I. Introduction .... 9

II. Our Attitude Towards Sex . . 16

III. Motives for Control . . .22

IV. The Purpose of the Sex Instinct . 32

V. The Strategy of Sex Control . 37

VI. The Control of the Sex Force . 45

VII. The Power of the Sublimated Life-

Forces 53

VIII. The Building of the Higher Self 65

IX. The Celibate Life . . 71

X. The Sex Life of the Child . 77

XI. Sex Enlightenment ... 85

XII. The Psychology of Modesty . 92

XIII. The Problem of Self-abuse . . 99

XIV. Abnormal Forms of Sexuality . 107

XV. Wisdom in Love . . . .114

5

FOREWORD

I N this book I am trying to do for my
readers what I have so often done for
patients who have come to me for psycho¬
therapy. It is really a course of treatments
for sex control, and the earlier chapters,
which deal with Standpoint and motive,
should be carefully read and re-read because
they are intended to produce a frame of
mind in the reader, ju&t as I would do if he
or she came to me as a patient.

I do not, however, take patients now,
and therefore this book muSt do its own
work, for I cannot undertake to give
interviews.

THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

INTRODUCTION

M ANY books have been written which
explain the fads of sex in simple
language ; many others which make appeals
for social purity ; and some few, of varying
value, which deal with the problems of
married life ; but, so far as I know, none
have attempted to deal in a really pradical
manner with the difficulties of celibacy, and
to follow an appeal for control of the sex
inStind by pradical suggestions as to the
method of attaining that much-to-be-desired
end.

People may be unmarried either from
force of circumdances or choice. If from
force of circumstances, it is exceedingly
desirable that the urge of the sex inStinds
should not be so insistent as to cause distress,

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10 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

or so powerful as to place them in difficult
situations. If celibacy is from choice, it is
very helpful for those who make that choice
to know the beSt way of managing their
natures. There is a Strategic method of
approach which reduces the expenditure of
repressive force to a minimum and is much
more economical of energy than the frontal
attack of pure will-power.

The normal desires of a man are not
towards an irregular life, but rather towards
the ideal woman who shall be the beloved
wife, even if the ideal is no higher than
physical beauty. Illicit relations are but a
substitute for this ideal ; nor is it a good
thing that any one should be hurried into
marriage by the insistent demands of his
physical nature, inStead of being free to
seek at his leisure for the woman who shall
be his true wife, meeting his higher needs
as well as his lower.

Moreover, ability to regulate the sex
inStind is as necessary for happiness in
married life as in single. A man muSt be
the maSter of himself if he is to reach the

INTRODUCTION

11

full Mature of manhood—the physical in-
din&s which we share with the animal
kingdom should not have the power to
didate to us ; we do not belong to our
bodies, our bodies belong to us, to be used
for the ends that reason, not emotion, shall
determine. It is a tragic thing for a man
to be carried along by a tide of desire while
his higher self rebels at the demands of
his physical needs which cannot be satisfied
save by means which he feels to be degrading.

The problem of sex control is a problem
for women as well as men, though not
commonly in so acute a form. A girl is
often ignorant of the significance of her own
feelings, and owing to the dernness of the
social code towards the delinquencies of her
sex, she dare not dally with them; so that
her danger does not lie so much in the risks
and degradations of illicit sex expression as
in the discomfort and nervous disorders of
undue repression.

The problem often becomes acute towards
middle age, and I have known the same
advice to be given to women as is sometimes

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given to men, with disastrous consequences.
We should not regard a solution of the sex
problem as satisfactory which requires the
degradation of any human soul. There are
some practices which involve the degrada¬
tion of another, and some which involve the
degradation of oneself; and though, if
there muSt be a choice, it is better to infliCt
suffering on oneself alone rather than to
involve another, the problem is not solved
by yielding to the blackmailing demands of
the lower self which, by threats of dis¬
comfort and promises of pleasure, induces
us to do what we would not do if we had
freedom of choice.

The method of sex control herein de¬
scribed is based on many years 5 experience
in dealing with sex problems in both men
and women in both clinic and private
praClice. By the methods herein described
sex control can be attained and maintained
without Strain or repression, even in difficult
or complicated cases of lifelong Standing. It
is very much easier than it appears to be,
and the effeCt of the method is accumulative,

INTRODUCTION 13

increasing in efficacy as it is persisted in.
It does not produce the Strain and nervous¬
ness of repression by will-power, nor does
it produce sex-repulsion and incapacity for
normal married life ; it is a true sublimation
of the life forces, using on a higher level
that which has to be denied expression on
a lower level.

Did I desire to commercialise this syStem
into a course of expensive correspondence
lessons, it could no doubt be made into a
profitable business, for the need for such
help is much more widespread than those
who have not worked along these lines
would believe ; but I feel that any know¬
ledge which can relieve human suffering
should not be kept secret for the sake of
profit. It is hoped that this book may be
of value to the educationalist and social
worker, as well as to those who have to
solve problems of their own, and for this
reason the chapters on the child and
adolescent are added. Those who wish to
teach this method of sex control to others
should note carefully the method of ap-

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proach employed in these pages, because it
is based on experience in dealing with a
wide range of cases.

Firft, a really vital motive for purity
should be found and presented clearly to
the patient; next, specious reasonings should
be dealt with so that conscience may not
have a loophole ; and thirdly, a clear under¬
standing of the fads of sex should be
imparted ; this laSt is more important than
it might appear to be, for successful sex
control is impossible so long as sex is an
unsolved myStery. Fourthly, each individual,
whether man or woman, muSt be reconciled
to the sex side of his or her nature, and
induced to accept it as normal and whole¬
some, but not to treat it with familiarity or
levity, as it is too often done when the taboo
of silence is removed ; they should learn to
regard sex, not as too unclean to be referred
to indiscriminately, but as too sacred . It is
this sacredness of sex, rather than its dangers,
that should be emphasised. Fear is a
two-edged weapon when used as a motive
for control, for it causes things that are

INTRODUCTION

15

better dismissed from thought to haunt the
mind.

In this book I deliberately avoid the
consideration of the religious asped of the
problem because I hope that the followers
of every path that leads to the Light may
find it useful. I may say, however, that in
my experience of sex problems I have found
that the man or woman, or child, too, for
that matter, who finds help in his or her
religion has a much easier task than the
one who has to go alone in his own strength.

OUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS SEX

HERE are three possible attitudes that

X can be assumed with regard to sex.
On the one hand, it may be regarded as
unclean, sinful, to be kept out of sight and
mind, and to be tolerated in marriage only
because of the physical impossibility of
totally eliminating it; on the other hand, it
may be considered as natural and common¬
place as eating and drinking, and we may
be advised to familiarise ourselves with
Nature’s method of continuing the race
until it ceases to have the fascination of
mystery and novelty.

I have seen both these methods tried, and
both have serious drawbacks, and yet in
each there is a foundation of truth which
renders it impossible to ignore its view-point.
Havelock Ellis, the great authority on sex

OUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS SEX 17

psychology, has very justly pointed out that if
the process of nourishment were surrounded
with the same mystery as the process of re¬
production, the problems of catering would
be as dark and difficult as the problems of
sex life, and people would be trying all
manner of experiments in diet, some of
which might be disastrous. It is because
of the general ignorance of sex hygiene, and
consequent secret and unguided experimen¬
tation that many of our social problems and
diseases have arisen.

This cannot be disputed. Yet the universal
instinct of mankind to keep sex out of sight
cannot be without some foundation in prac¬
tical experience, however perverted and
remote from reality some of its methods
may have become.

We have found by experience that any¬
thing which causes us to think of sex is very
apt to stimulate sex feelings ; so that, if we
do not wish at the moment to give expression
to those feelings in afts, we had better keep
away from anything which reminds us of
them. Familiarity with sex is, unfortunately

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18 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

for the advocates of unrepression, like habi¬
tuation to alcohol, it does not satiate, but
demands larger doses. For this reason,
modedy is a thing which we cannot afford
to dispense with. We mud avoid giving
the Stimulus if we do not desire the resulting
readion.

I suggest that we should deal with sex,
not from the Standpoint of its wickedness,
nor of its commonplaceness, but of its sacred¬
ness. We should realise its tremendous
potency on the mental as well as on the
physical plane ; we should regard it as the
dired expression of the Divine Life through
the channel of our organisms ; it does not
belong to us, to be used for our personal
pleasure, for we are trustees for the race,
and unborn generations are beneficiaries
under this Divine Trud. This is the essence
of sex life and the secret of right use of the
sex force —it is not ours , it belongs to the race .
The fad that it gives us pleasure in its use
is incidental to its real objed, and is
simply a provision of Nature to secure that
objed.

OUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS SEX 19

The indind of all mankind in all ages,
from the mod primitive to the mod de¬
praved, has always felt that sex force is
rightly used only when it is used for racial
ends; as soon as it is used for personal
gratification it is felt to be debased. Used
rightly, it has a spiritual significance ; used
wrongly, it becomes corruption.

No amount of argument concerning phys¬
iological necessity can get away from the
fad that sex force, wrongly used, puts its
mark on a man or woman. The lines round
the eyes, the set of the lips, the carriage of
the body, proclaim it, and intuition assesses
them unerringly. Unless the sex force is
sandified by the fulfilment of its duties as
well as the enjoyment of its pleasures, it
puts the damp of sensuality on the face
and form.

Marriage implies not only exclusive pos¬
session, but home-making ; and the reason
that unlegalised unions almod invariably
fail to be permanent is because home¬
making, with the pleasures of hospitality
and neighbourliness, is denied to them, and

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therefore they satisfy only a part of the
nature.

People may have the right to take their
lives into their own hands and do as they
please in matters which concern no one but
themselves, but in the sex relationship the
rights and welfare of a third person have to
be considered,—the possible child. To
bring into the world a child for whom no
home can be made, is to do that child a
cruel wrong, and there is no contraceptive
known to medical science which is absolutely
dependable. I was present at a meeting for
the discussion of contraceptives, and a lead¬
ing authority Sated that we have methods
which give a 90 per cent safety, but none
which give a 100 per cent safety, and not
a single voice was raised in dissent. The
only certain thing about contraceptives is
their uncertainty.

The whole queSion of the use of contra¬
ceptives is not only a vexed one, but an
open one ; and whatever may be said of
their physiological advantages, or their
spiritual disadvantages, there can be no

OUR ATTITUDE TOWARDS SEX si

question of their aesthetic offensiveness. No
one would use them if they could help it.
It is preferable from every point of view
that the sex urge should be prevented from
arising when not desired, than that means
should be used to prevent the normal
completion of its a&ion when that aftion
has already commenced.

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MOTIVES FOR CONTROL

I T may be thought Strange that it should
appear necessary to discuss motives for
purity, but a considerable section of modern
thought, finding justification for its philos¬
ophy in the Freudian psychology, advocates
self-expression in sex as a truer and more
natural way of life than self-control. Upon
a half-underStood medical theory are based
a philosophy and ethics which have an
immediate bearing on condud, health and
national welfare, and therefore it may be as
well to discuss the theory on which these
are based.

The New Psychology, having discovered
that sex lies at the bottom of many forms of
nerve trouble, has declared in no uncertain
terms the harmfulness of sex repression. I
was in close touch with the early develop-

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MOTIVES FOR CONTROL 23

ments of psycho-analysis in England when
it was believed that sex repression was at
the root of all nerve problems, and that
‘ unrepression 5 would solve them all, as
well as many other ills that society is heir
to ; this theory proved unsatisfactory in
pradice ; there is more in sex life than
physical desire, and with a great many
temperaments, if physical expression is found
in a form that outrages the moral and
spiritual nature, a conflid is set up which is
simply an aggravation of the original prob¬
lem. I have seen much serious trouble
ensue from taking the rash advice that is
sometimes given.

In my opinion it is not repression that
produces nerve trouble, but dissociation,
which is a very different thing. In repres¬
sion, we refuse to ad upon an impulse ; in
dissociation, we refuse to admit to ourselves
that such impulses are a part of our nature,
and thereby deceive ourselves. If we shirk
facing ourselves in this way, our impulses,
not being controlled by consciousness, get
out of hand, and are very apt to express

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themselves in indired ways and in curious
symbolic and perverted forms, thus giving
rise to mental disease. It is the people
who refuse to face the fads of their
own natures and of life in general who
develop c kinks , 5 and not the people who,
facing the fads, determine on a specific
line of condud and adhere to it at all
cods.

The Freudian psychology teaches that
mod forms of nerve trouble are due to
conflid between subconscious sex wishes
and an artificially trained conscience which
holds them down, and one way of resolving
the conflid is by getting rid of the repressive
conscious. When this is done by means of
‘ re-education 5 after dream analysis, it
usually produces a feeling of relief and
freedom which is held to conditute a
cure; this, however, is, as far as I have
been able to follow up the subsequent
hidory of cases so treated, followed by a
readion, because the conflid has not been
settled but merely changed in form ; for

MOTIVES FOR CONTROL 25

whereas, in the firft Sate the social inftind
was holding down the sex inftind, in the
second Sate the sex inSind is holding down
the social inSind, and the urge to be in
harmony with our fellows is juS as fun¬
damental as the urge to reproduce our
kind.

The unrepression of the sex inSind is very
apt to lead to unlimited self-abuse, and the
demoralisation and degeneration that that
brings with it. This, in fad, is one of the
prime risks of psycho-analytical treatment;
so much so, that it was a current saying at
one time among those who were Sudying
psycho-analysis that, although we could not
agree with Freud that all our cases Sarted
with sex problems, they moS of them
ended with them ! One thing is quite
certain, that psycho-analytical treatment is
the laS thing for a case in which sex has
got out of control.

The one-sidedness of the Early Vidorian
attitude towards sex has led to a readion,
juft as that attitude was itself a readion

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from the Restoration grossness, and the
truth, as usual, lies in the middle way.
Nothing which can grip men’s minds and
consciences can be altogether without foun¬
dation in truth, and because we have to
dissent from a dodrine or sydem as a whole
we should not be blind to its truth in parts.
The Freudian dodrine is not so much
untrue as disproportionate ; the sex forces,
when healthy, bear about the same pro¬
portion to life as a whole as the sex organs
do to the body as a whole, it is only when
something is amiss with them that they
bulk unduly large in consciousness.

This indind, however, having a very
large mental asped, is almod invariably
affeded when nervous trouble sets in, and
therefore it is generally found to be morbid
when a nerve case is psycho-analysed ; but
then a morbid digedive sydem is jud as
common in neurotics and no one has yet
suggeded indigedion as the sole cause of
mental trouble !

Sex is a subjed which is very apt to
obsess the minds of those who dudy it ; the

MOTIVES FOR CONTROL 27

investigator of sex psychology should be as
careful in his precautions as the investigator
of radio-a&ive substances, for he is very
liable to be affefted by the material with
which he has to work, this is not sufficiently
realised by those who undertake these
Studies and therefore their work is apt to
be biased by the warping of their own
natures under the influence of the mental
atmosphere in which they spend their
days.

It is never wise to read books on sex, even
those that plead for purity, when fatigued ;
neither is it wise to read them for too long
at a time, nor too many of them in rapid
succession. The scientific worker in these
subje&s takes his risks and takes his pre¬
cautions, but for the layman the advice
which the caterpillar gave to Alice in
Wonderland regarding the puppy-dog is
the wisest : ‘You let it alone, and it will
let you alone . 5

When the problem presents itself to
consciousness it should be faced honeStly
and courageously and a line of condud

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decided upon, and then the subjed should
be put aside. To be continually dwelling
upon it is to induce the very condition
which it is supposed to be desired to avoid.
I say ‘ supposed J advisedly, for I have
known even the bed and saned books
on sex hygiene to be read from morbid
motives.

As to the physiological results of con¬
tinence, the new work on the dudless glands
shows that the important contribution which
the sex organs make to the well-being of the
body is due to the interditial cells, or frame¬
work of the organs, and not to the vital
secretions themselves. These secretions re¬
present a tremendous output of energy, and
if the body has accumulated more energy
than it can use, and so has become congeded
with the surplus, it gives a sense of relief if
that surplus be disposed of in this way ;
but it is not the only use that can be made
of it ; it is, in fad, a very wadeful way to
dispose of it, for when turned into mental
channels, this energy becomes potentially
creative, and has an enormous effed on

MOTIVES FOR CONTROL 29

vitality and capacity. The teaching on the
subjed of sex which is handed on from one
generation of youth to another declares that
sex experience is necessary to health and
the development of true manliness, but it
should be noted that it is not the
fine, upStanding athlete whose sex desires
are Strongest, but rather the weakly and
unwholesome-looking lad of morbid temper¬
ament, and sedentary habits.

The commencement of sex adivity and
the slowing down of growth take place
simultaneously, for the simple reason that
the life-force is being diverted from one
channel into another. This does not mean
that celibates become giants, because growth
is limited by other means than this, but it
does mean that if sex expression begins
before maturity is reached, growth will be
Stunted owing to the defledion of life energy
from the upbuilding of the body into the
intensely vital secretions of the reprodudive
organs, whether that defledion be caused
by adual intercourse or self-abuse. For
this reason animal breeders separate the

30 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

sexes as early as possible in order to prevent
the premature sex a&ivity which spoils
development.

It is quite true, however, that the time of
the development of the sex a<3ivities is a
difficult time, and always mu£t be so because
it is a transition phase, and also because the
knowledge that enables a child to under¬
hand his or her own nature is often so
unwisely withheld. The method of sex
control advocated in these pages will be
found especially applicable to the problems
of the adolescent, as it is at that period that
sex control can be moh readily acquired
and is moh needed in order to safeguard
the developing life through the perils of the
entry upon the experiences of adult freedom.
If the perils of youth are to be avoided and
a happy marriage made, it is extremely
desirable that the passions should not have
a cahing vote in any decision.

The sex relationship between a man and
a woman is very much more than physical,
it is emotional, intelle&ual and spiritual, in
so far as those aspefts of the nature are

MOTIVES FOR CONTROL 31

developed in any given pair ; and if the
intelle&ual and spiritual nature be a&ive in
one of the two and absent in the other, the
companionship is incomplete and unsatis¬
fying.

IV

THE PURPOSE OF THE SEX INSTINCT

I N order to handle the sex forces within
ourselves we need to have a clear under¬
standing of their nature, and not only of
their physical asped, but of their mental
asped as well, for mind and body interad,
and the imagination plays a part in the sex
life as well as the dudless glands.

It is also necessary to Start with certain
basic concepts, if any satisfadory line of
adion is to be arrived at. These concepts,
though philosophical in their nature, are
extremely pradical in their effeds, because
they determine the attitude we assume
towards sex, and attitude is all-important
in this matter.

Let us ask ourselves, firSt of all, what
Nature is aiming at, because this is the
basis from which all adion muSt Start;

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THE PURPOSE OF THE SEX INSTINCT 33

there is no other. Or, if you wish to go
further back in the line of causation, you
may ask : What is God aiming at through
Nature ? We see that Nature works, not
by means of individuals, but by means of
species, it is not until life has reached a very
high degree of development that the in¬
dividual begins to have importance.

We may conceive of Life as flowing out
into manifestation through the channels of
millions upon millions of individual organ¬
isms. This Life, pressing for expression
through us, appears to us as the great
fundamental indinds, and the chief thing
we have to realise in regard to these indinds
is that Nature has adapted them to serve racial
rather than personal ends . This is a funda¬
mental concept, and forms the basis of all
attempts to control the indinds. Even the
self-preservation indind aims primarily at
the preservation of the race, and preserves
the individual simply as a means to that
end. That is why people cling to life under
conditions in which pure reason might say
they were better dead ; and also why we

34 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

deny to individuals the right to injure
themselves with degrading drugs like opium,
for the race preserves itself in the persons
of the many individuals who compose it.

And likewise with the reproductive in-
StinCt, Nature aims at the continuance of
the race, not at giving pleasure to indi¬
viduals ; but because the achievement of
any inftinCtive end is pleasurable, and the
reproductive inStinCt operates at high pres¬
sure, the achievement of its end is more
intensely pleasurable than the mere main¬
tenance of life to which the self-preservation
inStinCt prompts us. But were we to achieve
the maintenance of life only by means of a
great effort, the pleasure of the satisfaction
of that inStinCt would be as great as the
pleasure of the satisfaction of the repro¬
ductive inStinCt. Who can doubt that the
traveller who escapes from the wolves, or
the sailor who is saved from a shipwreck,
experiences a profound satisfaction ?

Let us therefore realise that the pleasure
we experience in the satisfaction of an
inStinCt is incidental to Nature’s purpose,

THE PURPOSE OF THE SEX INSTINCT 35

and does not constitute the reason for the
existence of that inSiind. The capacity to
derive pleasure from the use of an inStind is
implanted in our natures because it is the
simplest and moSt effective way of inducing
us to make use of those faculties with which
the inSiind is concerned. If we try and
think of the purpose of an inStind as apart
from the pleasure its exercise can give, we
shall get a truer concept of it, and have
gone much further towards its right manage¬
ment than we shall do if we only think of
our personal needs and desires in relation
to it.

Let us, then, make up our minds to this,
that the sex force within us does not belong
to us, it belongs to the race, and we are
only trustees for it, and that if we use it for
personal ends such as physical pleasure, it
is as if we were misappropriating truSt
money. The beneficiary under the truSt is
the race that is to be, the nation of the
future, and whenever we think of our
personal needs and desires in regard to sex,
let us also think of the unborn child to

36 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

which the gratification of those needs might
give life, and for whom there can be no
home.

Whenever the sex needs make themselves
felt, let us remind ourselves that we are
feeling within us the pressure of the Divine
Life ; let us regard it as the mo£t sacred
thing that God has entrusted to us, and let
us make up our minds to keep it scrupu¬
lously clean, pure and holy.

V

THE STRATEGY OF SEX CONTROL

M OST people, when they try to control
the sex impulse, do it by sheer will¬
power, but there is a much easier way than
this ; and although will-power cannot be
dispensed with, there is a way of using it,
a Strategical method of attack, which makes
the task infinitely easier.

In addition to the physical machinery by
means of which Nature carries on the life
of the race, there are the nerve-controls
which operate it, and these are juSt as
important and not nearly so well under¬
stood ; but for the purpose of this book it
is all-important that their nature should be
thoroughly grasped, because it is by manipu¬
lating them by means of the picture-images
of the imagination that the control of the
sex forces is obtained.

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38 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

Supposing the idea of sex arises in the
consciousness, certain physiological changes
in the sex organs immediately take place,
because the mental image of the sex-idea
is telegraphed along the nerves that lead to
these organs, and they immediately prepare
themselves for aCtion. Between times they
are quiescent. The firft change which takes
place is an increased blood supply to the
parts concerned by means of juft the same
mechanism as that which produces blushing
of the face in response to an idea.

If the ftimulus be withdrawn immediately
by, say, the attention being diftra&ed, the
extra blood re-enters the circulation and
the veins of the reproductive organs return
to their normal ftate ; but if the ftimulus be
continued, then the blood pressure in the
organs causes the cycle of sex adivity to
run its course.

Let it be clearly underftood that the
secretion of the seminal fluid does not
resemble the secretion of urine by the
kidneys, which is made drop by drop and
ftored in the bladder for periodical dis-

THE STRATEGY OF SEX CONTROL 39

charge. This is a mistaken analogy which
has misled so many, who think that, because
sex desire is Strong, the seminal fluid muSt
have accumulated within them and that
discharge is imperative. Whereas the
seminal fluid is only secreted after the
organs become engorged with blood as the
result of a nerve impulse. It therefore
follows that if the nerve impulse can be
controlled, and prevented from increasing
the blood supply to the organs, the seminal
fluid will not be secreted.

Sex desire is caused by the pressure of
extra blood in the organs, not by pressure of
accumulated seminal fluid, which is proved
by the fad that desire may come up and
die away repeatedly without any secretion
being formed, and that sex desire is present
in the female as well as the male, that it
continues after the glands have lod their
power of secretion owing to old age, and
that if the reprodudive organs are removed
after the age of puberty, the emotional
asped of sex desire is unaffeded.

Our problem, then, is to control the

40 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

original impulse which sent the blood to
the organs, so let us Study its workings.

This impulse has a circular motion, an
outgoing impulse from the brain to the
organs causing them to read, and a return
impulse from the organs to the brain which
causes the sensation to be felt. A sexual
image in the imagination will send an
impulse along the outgoing nerves, but
equally, any Stimulation of the reprodudive
organs will cause sensation to be sent back
to the brain, where it will give rise to a
sexual image ; the impulse may Start at
either end of the circuit, either in an idea
in the imagination, or in a sensation in the
organs themselves ; the idea gives rise to
the sensation, and the sensation to the idea,
and the impulse is telegraphed round and
round the nerve circuit several times, gain¬
ing Strength as it goes, till it finally results
in the explosion of energy which forms the
orgasm : therefore the secret of Stopping
undesired sex readions is to break this
circuit.

FirSt of all, let all external Stimulation of

THE STRATEGY OF SEX CONTROL 41
the organs, whether accidental or deliberate,
be carefully avoided ; unless this be done,
the impulse will continually be restarted
on its circuit, however often that circuit
may be broken by the mind. Tight clothing
is a common cause of Stimulation, especially
in growing children, and is often the
Starting-point of bad habits ; and to leave
a baby too long without attention is simply
asking for trouble. Being too warm in bed,
and having the bladder over-full, especially
when in bed, are also causes of Stimulation ;
meat is also a Stimulant to a certain extent,
and alcohol is the moSt potent sex-Stimulant
of all. These fadors should all be dealt
with firSt in order to clear the ground for
the mental control of the sex force and
place no unnecessary difficulties in the
way.

The sex image may arise spontaneously
or be caused by something read, heard, or
seen. If people persist in reading un¬
wholesome books and looking at unpleasant
pidures, they will not be able to control
the sex forces, because they are constantly

42 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

Simulating them. If they are obliged to
associate with people who indulge in talk
and innuendo on sex subje&s, their task will
naturally be more difficult than if they were
with more wholesome companions, but
they can at leaS refrain from contributing
their quota to the conversational mud. The
method of thought control which I will
explain, will prevent impure suggestions
from entering the mind and gaining a
foothold there.

People who have sex problems to solve
generally have some mental pifture or set
of ideas which gives rise to the desire, and
this especially applies to those who indulge
in self-abuse ; they invariably make use of
phantasy. These mental pi&ures rise in
consciousness with extraordinary vividness
and cause Strong sex desire. If the will is
used to drive away these pi&ures, it merely
focuses the attention on them, and however
much the attention be turned away from
them, they seem merely to be waiting their
opportunity to spring up again. A direct
attack by the will often defeats its own ends,

THE STRATEGY OF SEX CONTROL 43

but WHAT THE IMAGINATION HAS MADE, THE
IMAGINATION GAN BREAK.

Look right at the sensual image, visualise
it clearly, and then imagine it to explode
into a thousand fragments. Now in its
place deliberately pidure with all the clear¬
ness you possibly can, a mental image,
symbolic of purity. See a tall white lily
or a fruit tree in blossom, or a favourite
pidure of an inspiring theme. Smash the
ugly image and replace it with a beautiful
one, that is the secret of dealing with un¬
desirable mental pidures.

When an image has once been smashed
in this way, it will be the pale ghod of its
former self on its next appearance, and
after it has been dealt with a few times, it
will be gone for good. True, others may
appear until the physical conditions settle
down, but they can be dealt with in the
same way as their predecessors till all are
overcome, and habits of purity built up
which become jud as fixed as habits of
self-indulgence. It is because habits that
are not used soon fade and are forgotten,

44 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

and actions that are persisted in soon
become habits, that we can do so much
for ourselves by mind-training.

If evil dreams trouble the sleep, the
imagination can again be used for protection.
Visualise oneself as sleeping on an island
set in a silver sea across which no impurity
can come, or visualise guardian angels at
the head and foot of the bed, into whose
presence no evil dare venture ; or if the
temptations of the abyss be so Strong that
they almoSt seem to be external to oneself,
imagine a great mailed archangel like St.
Michael drawing a flaming circle of pro¬
tection round the bed with a fiery sword,
and himself Standing on guard all night
while you sleep secure with that magic
circle ; and then imagine a white cross
lying on your breaSt so that you yourself
may not pollute that circle by evil thoughts
arising in sleep. Always fight the imagina¬
tion with the imagination by exchanging
one image for another.

VI

THE CONTROL OF THE SEX FORCE

I N the previous chapters the control of
the. mental half of the circuit of sex
impulse was shown : in this chapter we
will deal with the method of controlling the
physical half of that circuit.

It mu£t be clearly realised, however, that
after the sex reactions have proceeded a
certain way, they will go on to their natural
conclusion ; the time at which to Slop them
is when the firSt rush of blood to the organs
makes itself felt. To dally with the sensa¬
tions until orgasm is beginning is very
undesirable and apt to cause nervous tension.
If, however, the following sySlem of thought
control be used, it will be found a com¬
paratively simple matter to bring down the
blood pressure in the reproductive organs
and send the nervous energy to other parts
of the sySlem and turn it to other uses.

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46 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

As soon as the sex impulse makes itself
felt, concentrate your attention on the base
of the spine. Attention is directed to the
base of the spine because it is there that the
nerves that control the sex organs have
their origin. Then say to yourself: “ The
Divine life force has risen out of my sub-
consciousness and come within reach. I lay
hold of it in the Name of God Who sent it,
and I dedicate it to His service . 95 If the
idea of God does not appeal to you, then
lay hold of this great force in the name of
Humanity, or whatever ideal seems to you
the nobleft, but always insift on seeing the
sex force in its higheft aspeft, see it as it
issues pure and undefiled from its Divine
source ; never try to induce repulsion for
it by thinking of the awful consequences its
illicit uses may bring in their train. If you
were learning to cycle, and you saw a ftone
in the road which you wished to avoid, you
would find that if you kept your eyes fixed
on the ftone you would hit it with an
accuracy you could never achieve in a
gymkhana, and the more you reminded

THE CONTROL OF THE SEX FORCE 47

yourself of the awful consequences of hitting
that Stone, the more you would wobble out
of sheer nervousness. People do not realise
the bad effeds of the wobble of nervousness
that is induced by dwelling on the direful
consequences of the thing it is desired to
avoid. Dwell rather on the good that will
be achieved through the thing that it is
desired to do ; this reinforces the will with
the desires and smooths the path in a
wonderful fashion. Always think of the

THING YOU MEAN TO DO, NOT OF THE THING
YOU WISH TO AVOID.

Next visualise the spine as a hollow tube
and make a mental pidure of your hand
encircling it, and then, with this imaginary
hand, begin to massage the spine with an
upward, squeezing adion. Supposing you
had a length of soft rubber tubing that had
become blocked by some sediment, you
could get rid of the obdrudion and empty
the tube by drawing it through your fid,
squeezing it as it went, and so pushing the
subdance it contained on ahead of the
condridion in the tube made by the pressure

48 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

of your fingers. It is the same process that
you are to use in imagination on the spine,
but you will find it necessary to do it by
repeated pushes, gradually working your way
up the spine with a Stroking adion, as it were,
for a single imaginary movement will not
impress the pidure on the mind sufficiently.

As you perform this process you will
notice a peculiar thing, when working on
the lower part of the spine you will find
considerable difficulty in doing what you
are trying to do, but as you work up the
length of the column the resistance grows
less, and by the time you have reached the
shoulder-level, the invisible energy which
you are to imagine yourself as squeezing up
the spinal column will have begun to flow of
its own accord inSiead of having to be driven.

As soon as it enters the brain it muSt be
direded to the intelledual centres in the
forehead, and you muSt pidure yourself as
having a third eye in the centre of the fore¬
head, like the giants of old, and with that
third eye you muSt imagine yourself to be
looking out on the world from a great

THE CONTROL OF THE SEX FORCE 49

altitude, as if from an aeroplane, so that
you see it with a bird’s-eye view, remote
from yourself. Next you muSt choose some
philanthropic movement that is of national
service ; you muSt then make a little mental
pidure of the work of that organisation
being carried on, and you muSt project the
energy you have dragged up from the base
of your spine in a radiant Stream on to that
little mental pidure, and then imagine
yourself to be taking part in the work and
willing the energy you are sending to be
a driving force behind it.

For example, supposing you have chosen
the ‘ Save the Children Fund 5 as the
special movement into which you wish to
pour force, you would make a mental
pidure of one of the food-diSiributing depots
(if you do not know what they look like,
imagine how you would expert such a
depot to appear, accuracy of detail does
not matter, you are only using a symbol to
assiSl thought), and then pidure the force
from your forehead pouring in a golden
Stream on to that depot ; next imagine

50 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

yourself coming out of the door of the
building with a basket of food on your arm,
and distributing it amongSt the Starving
children in their pitiful homes, and the luSt
that has been in you will be transformed
into love and compassion for those children.
You could then imagine to yourself their
joy and relief, and dwell on this imaginary
pi&ure until you began to find yourself
feeling pleasure in their gratitude, for as
soon as you can induce in yourself an
emotion of the higher type, the sensation of
the lower type will disappear.

You can apply this idea to any movement
which evokes your sympathy, but you muSt
never send this force on to an individual
because we know too little of the power of
the mind to be able to say what the result
would be ; also remember this, that it is
not a method that can safely be used for
any form of mental healing.

Whether the virtue of this system lies in
diftra&ing the attention from the sex sensa¬
tions, as one di£tra<Ss the attention of a
crying child so that the tears Stop, or

THE CONTROL OF THE SEX FORCE 51

whether an adual energy goes forth, we
cannot say, but at leaSt no harm can be
done, and if there is a spiritual power behind
the imaginary radiance thus projeded, as I
like to believe there is, so much the better.
Whether the day will come when science
shall invent instruments that can prove the
projedion of a diStind force, I do not know ;
experiments have been made with such
instruments, but their findings have not yet
met with acceptance by orthodox scientists,
but any one who tries the experiment I
have outlined will soon be under the
impression that some force is being sent
forth. Whether it reaches its aim or not,
cannot be said, but it certainly appears to
leave the body.

Now let us consider what would happen
if the energy were merely brought to the head
and left there, without using the mental
pidure of social service and projeding it
thereon. As a matter of fad, nothing
happens ; in a few minutes the sex desires
Start again with renewed force, whereas, if
the mental image of projedion be used,

52 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

their force seems to be more or less got rid
of. If the desires Start again, it is with
much less keenness, and the repetition of
the process two or three times will see the
end of them for the time being. In due
course the impulses will arise again in the
cyclic activity of overflowing life, juft as
cyclic for a man as for a woman, though
its periodicity is not so well marked, but
they can be dealt with anew in the same
way. If a very active sex life has left the
veins of the productive organs more or less
permanently dilated, it will take a little
time for these to settle down to normal, but
if this system is persevered with, they will
gradually quiet down and come under
control, so that the organs shall sleep until
activity is required of them. Juft as the
brain ceases activity and sleeps when its
blood supply is reduced, or races itself into
insomnia when the blood pressure is too
high, so also do the sex organs ; and it is
the sleep, not the death of sex that should
be aimed at when its activities are not
desired.

VII

THE POWER OF THE SUBLIMATED LIFE-
FORCES

I N these pages I am venturing a good
deal beyond what orthodox psychology
is prepared to acknowledge, so I am merely
going to explain a method of manipulating
the mind which has been found by ex¬
perience to give certain results, and not
involve myself in arguments by trying to
explain how these results are obtained. I
am now going to put a bold hypothesis
before my readers, and advise them to try
its effeds in practical application.

As I have previously said in these pages,
let us conceive of the Divine Life-force as a
dream of energy flowing through the channel
of each individual organism and turning
the wheels of its machinery. On a mill-
dream many waterwheels may be ereded

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54 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

on different reaches, one may grind corn,
and another may run a dynamo, but the
same millftream drives them all. Let us
then conceive of the Divine Life-force as
a single Stream which, if it runs through
the machinery of the brain, becomes in¬
tellectual activity, thinks great thoughts,
plans great schemes, paints great pictures ;
and if it runs through the machinery of the
muscles becomes physical energy, and if
through the machinery of the reproductive
organs becomes sex energy. Let us regard
this energy as the manifestation of Divine
Life, holy in its origin, sacred in its aCtion,
and never let us forget that sex feelings are
caused by this Divine energy working
through the machinery of reproduction.
This is a point that muSt always be kept
clearly in sight when dealing with super¬
abundant sex.

Dirt has been defined as ‘ misplaced
matter . 5 The farmer speaks of the loam in
his fields as € nice clean soil , 5 but his wife
calls it ‘ filthy muck 5 if he treads it over
her carpets. So it is with sex. The marvel-

POWER OF SUBLIMATED LIFE-FORCES 55

lous ad which gives life is a sacrament;
the impulses of dawning love beautify the
face and ennoble the charader. Fird love
is usually much more of the spirit than of
the body, there is nothing impure or un¬
clean in its idealidic fervour although the
desire to be near the beloved will soon
develop into the desire for a closer union.
It is the debasing of this sacred force that
gives a sense of pollution and degradation.
The higher a thing is, the more debasing is
its downfall; the eating of food is not a
disguding operation, but if one saw a
packet of sandwiches spread out on an
altar, the incongruity of such an ad would
cause a feeling of repulsion. The debase¬
ment of sex causes such acute disguSt because
one inStindively feels that it has come from
so high a source.

This life-force, in its journey from its
spiritual source, becomes firSt an idea in the
mind, then a feeling in the emotional nature,
and finally a sensation in the reprodudive
organs ; we may observe a similar series of
phases in the course of evolution, reproduc-

56 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

tion in the lowed forms of life is merely a
mechanical ad, then, in the vertebrates
feeling comes into it, and finally, in man,
thought plays a part; in the higher types
of humanity it is felt to have a spiritual
significance as well, and therefore the
Churches are asked to bless it. All these
aspeds are present in each individual. Sex
has its sensations, its emotions, and its
ideals for each of us.

In the previous chapter the problem of
the control of the life-force when it had
become sex force was dealt with. In this
chapter we will deal with the control of
the life-force so that it does not become sex
force. This is a very important point in
the life of any one who is unmarried. If
we realise clearly that all energy is one, we
shall see that if we use a great deal of energy
in one diredion, we shall have less available
for use in another. It may be pointed out
in answer to this proposition that men and
women of genius have frequently had ex¬
ceptionally drong sex passions, but if their
lives be dudied closely, it will be found

POWER OF SUBLIMATED LIFE-FORCES 57

that their energies are exceptionally Strong
in all directions, and their sex life was
but in proportion to the reft of their
nature.

If a great deal of energy goes through the
channels of the lower self, it can only be at
the expense of the higher self. Whatever
we focus our attention upon tends to
develop, and if attention be continually
focussed upon physical sensations, the whole
of the nature tends to coarsen and become
more fleshly, as the face clearly indicates.

Many people try to defied the sex forces
into their career by working very hard in
the hope of draining them off from the
lower levels. This is a course which is very
seldom entirely satisfactory, though it is not
generally understood why this should be
so, and those whose sex forces have legalised
outlet advise their less fortunately placed
brothers and sifters to 4 work it off 9 in the
self-satisfied belief that they have pro¬
pounded a solution of the problem if the
recipient of their advice would only make
the self-denial necessary to take it. They

58 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

forget that the problem is a physiological
one as well as a moral one.

If it be recolleded that it is the self-
preservation indind which prompts us to
build up a career, we shall see that it is
quite a different type of force which is
herein employed to that which creates
another life ; in one case it is exclusively
self-regarding, or ego-centric, and in the
second, the whole tendency is to overflow
into another.

It is not enough that an outlet should be
found for feelings that would normally be
direded towards the mate, we mud also
take into consideration that these feelings will
normally have the love of the child added
to them in due course, preventing attention
from being exclusively direded towards the
mate, and thus over-developing the mating
asped of the reprodudive indind. It is too
little realised, even by psychologids, that
the home-making indind and the parental
indind are a part of the reprodudive
indind and cannot be separated from it in
adual pradice, because the other two are

POWER OF SUBLIMATED LIFE-FORCES 59

the logical outcome of the a&ivity of the
firft. It is for this reason that in the union,
even if legalised, in which parenthood is
deliberately avoided, the sex iniflinCi is apt
to grow unduly Strong, and in unlegalised
unions is the principal cause of the speedy
break-up, owing to the formation of other
ties on the part of the man, which is usually
their end.

In choosing a channel for the sublimated
sex forces we muSt therefore pay attention
to their parental aspeCt, and seleCt some
a&ivity in which the emotions of com¬
passion and protection can flow out in
service. As has already been emphasised in
these pages, the life-forces belong to the
race, not to the individual, and it is to the
race they muSt be returned, if not through
one channel, then through another. If we
do not serve the race by making and tend¬
ing the bodies that carry out the racial life,
then we mu£t serve it through social service ;
but in any case the tremendous creative
energy which urges us to mate mu St never
be divorced from the equally divine com-

60 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

passion which urges us to tend and protect
the helpless issue of that mating. If we do
not have children of the flesh, we mud have
children of the spirit, else we shall suffer
from sex repression.

It may be asked in this resped, what is
a person to do who has to earn a living in
some monotonous occupation and for whom
no prosped of engagement in any definitely
social work opens up ? Let him dedicate
his attitude, if not his energies, to the
service of the community, and let him
be on the look out for any chance of
service to any living creature which may
come his way, and into that chance-flung
opportunity for giving a cup of cold water
let him pour the unused love-force of his
nature.

It is significant that the present dis¬
proportion in numbers between men and
women, and the delaying of the marriage
age for economic reasons, reasons which
are all the more pressing during a time of
national poverty, such as we are going
through in this pod-war epoch, force on us

POWER OF SUBLIMATED LIFE-FORCES 61

either the sublimation of a large proportion
of the sex forces of the race, or a welter of
promiscuity and contraceptives.

At the time when man was Struggling
with the beaSts for survival as a species,
numbers were necessary in order to fill the
gaps in the tribal ranks, but when his
supremacy was assured, his numbers were
no longer depleted by the teeth and claws
of his rivals, and he therefore tended to
overproduction, the resulting over-popula¬
tion being brought down by epidemics due
to overcrowding. But now comes the time
in our own age when, epidemics having
been got in hand by isolation and sanitation,
wars are being caused by the pressure of
population becoming too great for the land
to hold the race that inhabits it, and which
therefore overflows on to the land of some
other race.

Concurrently with this we see the great
increase in organisation for social service,
especially such organisations as are motived
by love of God and compassion for man ;
the people who carry on these organ-

62 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

isations are principally the childless and
unmated, and it is because the unsatisfied
love of these solitary souls overflows into
their work that the organisations run by
voluntary workers are so utterly different
in spirit and atmosphere to those run by a
bureaucracy. The relieving officer and
the Lady Bountiful may both give soup and
flannel, and the official soup may be better
in quality than the amateur product, but
there is no question which the poor prefer,
and the sick will go willingly and thankfully
into the cottage hospital who will druggie
desperately to avoid the infirmary wards of
the local workhouse.

The need at the present time is for
quality, not quantity in the children of the
race, and the social worker who labours to
make better conditions for humanity in
general, or any section thereof, is bearing
the race of the future jud as much as the
woman who labours in childbirth.

In primitive types of life the whole of
the creature was involved in the reproduction
process ; nutrition dops while the living

POWER OF SUBLIMATED LIFE-FORCES 63

jelly-speck grows a waid and comes in half;
but the higher we go in the line of evolution,
the smaller becomes the proportion of sex
life to the total life. In the highly organised
communities of the ant and the bee, large
sedions of the population never have any
sex life at all, but give all their energies to
the service of the community, and it looks
as if a similar date of affairs were gradually
being forced upon the human race. If we
all reproduced our kind at the Vidorian
rate, the dandard of life in these islands
would have to go down until the poverty
diseases came in to readjud the balance ;
but now that each child needs so much
tendance in order that it may share in all
the opportunities that civilisation affords,
a great number of potential mothers are
being absorbed by child welfare work and
education, and the adual mother only
does a part of the service which the race
gives to each new generation.

Any work which makes for human better¬
ment and ennoblement contributes to the
life of the race, and therefore is a suitable

64 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

substitute for maternity or paternity. Any
work which tends simply to self-aggrandise¬
ment keeps the life-forces within the circle
of the self and is no solution of the problem
of sex repression.

VIII

THE BUILDING OF THE HIGHER SELF

I HAVE tried to make it plain that the
sublimated sex forces should not be
employed to build the personality, but
poured out upon the race, because that is
their natural channel of flow, and no other
substitute is satisfa&ory. If they be used
within the self, an exaggerated egoism may
result. If, however, the life-forces are held
Steadily to the higher level and not allowed
to become sexual, they vitalise the whole
personality in a moSt extraordinary way
and give it that peculiar magnetic quality
so rarely seen and so noticeable when
present. Those who have sublimated the
life-forces into the service of the race will
have little need to complain of a lonely
life ; love will flow to them from all sides
and their companionship will be sought by
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66 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

all because they are radiating something
that is as vitalising as sunlight.

As Coue has very truly pointed out, if
we desire deliberately to build certain
qualities which are not naturally present in
us, we have to find some substitute for
spontaneous interest, and we can beSt find
it in dwelling for some length of time on
the ideas we wish to implant. Therefore
if we desire to turn the life-force into a
channel other than the one it would natur¬
ally seek, we have to perform definite
mental exercises in order to achieve our
end, and these I will now try to explain.

The following exercise for the building of
the higher self should be performed daily
immediately on waking. Let the thought
reSt for a moment on the animal centres at
the base of the spine and then run swiftly
up the spinal column to the intelledual
centres in the forehead, and say, “ I dedicate
my life-forces to the service of God through
the race.” You may then consider what¬
ever quality you feel yourself to be lacking
in, and will the life-force to flow in that

THE BUILDING OF THE HIGHER SELF 67

quality and Strengthen it so that you may
be the better equipped for service.

But supposing you are following one of
the creative arts as your profession, is it
legitimate that you should use the Divine
life-force for the purpose of developing your
art ? All creative ads are closely allied to
each other, and the fad that you are send¬
ing force to the higher self will increase the
creative vitality of whatever art or intel-
ledual pursuit you are following ; but if you
deliberately send the racial forces to the
creative centres of the mind, you mud be
prepared to use your gifts for the service of
the race and not for self alone, otherwise
‘ the swollen ego 9 will be developed in
you.

Supposing, for indance, your gift is for
music, and you vitalised it by the method
described in these pages, you would have
to be prepared, in addition to concert¬
giving in the ordinary course of professional
work, to give a considerable proportion of
your time to playing for charity, and also,
dill harder task, to helping and teaching

68 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

those who cannot afford to pay you, and
doing all this without thought of return,
whether of advertisement or gratitude,
simply as your contribution to racial life.
If you did not do this, and so insure that
the life-forces shall find expression outside
the narrow circle of your personality and
its limited ends, you would find that your
art was taking on the brilliancy of de¬
generacy.

Supposing, however, you are one of the
rank and file, or even of the Stragglers of
the army of life, what effeCt will the subli¬
mation of the life-forces have upon your
nature if you have no creative talents that
can turn them to use ? They will give,
firSt of all, a peculiar sense of poise, and
that sense of poise will soon be expressed in
the alteration of the carriage of the body.
There will also come an increased intel¬
lectual alertness and power to penetrate
into the nature of things ; there will be, in
faCt, a curious quickening and intensifying
of all the higher faculties.

The mod marked change, however, will

THE BUILDING OF THE HIGHER SELF 69

come in your relationships with other people;
they may not know what it is that they feel,
but they will speedily become aware of
something, and that something is be§t de¬
scribed as personal magnetism. There is a
curious buoyancy of the spirit which comes
when the life-forces are circulating on the
upper arc, also a freeing of the capacities
of the mind. The sublimation and dedica¬
tion of the life-forces will give personality to
the mo£t commonplace character, dignity
to the clumsiest figure, and spiritual beauty
to the homeliest face. “I, if I be lifted up,
will draw all men unto Me,” said Our Lord.
The uplifted consciousness draws towards
itself all that is highest in every human
heart, and the soul that dedicates its life-
forces to service will have little reason to
complain of loneliness and negled.

This does not mean that anyone needs to
give up ordinary wage-earning for philan¬
thropic work, but it does mean that a new
spirit mu£t come into the life, and that some
portion of your energy muft flow out in
making the world a better and happier

70 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

place for others, even for those you have
never seen, not out of any hope of gain or
gratitude, but simply in order that there
may be more happiness in the world.

IX

THE CELIBATE LIFE
ITH the exception of certain primitive

V V cults, all the great religions counsel
celibacy as the highest ideal of the life that
is dedicated to God ; in considering the
problem of the sublimated life-forces, we
therefore need to consider the question of
the ideal that prompts to celibacy as well
as considerations of expediency and force of
circumstances which are the more common
motives.

I think, however, that there is often some
misconception as to what celibacy consists
of. I can never feel that a refusal to give
expression to burning sex desires is a true
celibacy. “ Whoso looketh on a woman to
luSt after her has already committed adultery
with her in his heart.” Sensitive people
are very conscious of the desires that are

72 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

direded towards them, even if these desires
find no expression in word or adion. To
my mind, the true, dedicated celibacy is
due to a love of God so Strong that all lesser
loves are absorbed by it and forgotten. I
cannot believe that God is especially pleased
by the sacrifice of the indinds He has
implanted in us, for they are not evil in
themselves ; but the ties of the householder
take time, and if a man desires to give
himself wholly to the service of God, he
grudges the time demanded by the dis¬
charge of mundane duties, however legiti¬
mate those duties may be for those upon
whom they are laid, therefore he does not
assume them, and as he is without family
ties, he naturally tends to communal life
with those like-minded to himself, and
that life, being designed to give freedom
from worldly cares, will naturally be of
the simpled description, and so we get
the sisterhood and the clergy-house as the
natural outcome of an absorbing pre¬
occupation with the things of the Kingdom,
whether these be regarded from the asped

THE CELIBATE LIFE 73

of devotion to God or service of humanity.
The principle of religious celibacy is an
absorbing love of God, not the impurity
of sex.

Sometimes, however, the urge of inStind
and the physical habits of generations
persist in the flesh of those who desire to
give themselves to God, and then the
method I have described will be found very
useful in the management of Brother Ass,
especially for those whose work causes them
to deal with the problems of purity in
others, and who therefore cannot keep
their thoughts away from the subject of sex.

There should be no dissociation of the
lower self in those who desire to lead the
higher life, but they should “ carry their
manhood up into Godhead ” by the process
of sublimation I have described, and effed
a dedication of the life-forces to the chosen
service. Many souls arrive at this method
by experience and intuition, but many do
not, and their attempts to control the
manifestations of sex by the dired use of
the will result in an intensification of these

74 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

manifestations because attention is direded
towards them, juSi as the fear of blush¬
ing invariably produces a blush. The
mechanism is the same in both cases.

In judging the wisdom of the choice of
a celibate life we need to examine the
motives that prompt it. Many are called
but few are chosen, and not every dedication
that is offered to God is accepted ; we need
to be sure that it is not a pathology
based on shock causing sex repulsion which
prompts the choice ; that it is love of God
which draws, not disgud with man that
repels. In the latter case, the sex problem
is insoluble till its roots have been laid bare,
and the solution of the inhibiting complex is
more likely to lead to an ability and desire
to mate than a full dedication.

The complete dedication of the life to
God is the highest ideal to which any man
or woman can aspire, but it is not everyone
who is ready for that dedication or whose
chara&er would be acceptable to Perfed
Purity. We have got to come very near to
God in our everyday life and normal date

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75

of consciousness before we are ready for the
Divine Union, and for many the discipline
of home-making is the training which is
beSt suited to them.

What we need is the clarity of vision and
perfed self-control which prevents us from
developing obsessions and fixations. To be
obsessed with the ideal of purity is not less
part of the sex complex than to be obsessed
with impurity, for both spring from the
same root in the subconscious mind, only
the latter is an adion and the former a re-
adion ; if thought dwells constantly on the
denial of sex we are juSt as much sex-
obsessed as when it dwells on its gratification.
The free-moving pendulum swings smoothly
through its arc and returns without pause,
it is when it Sticks at any point that it Stops
the clock.

We do not want to dedicate a pathology
to God, but an ennobled human life which
is both whole and wholesome, with the
Divine Life-forces running Strongly and
freely on the higheSt spiritual levels. Such
a life, being in touch with the Divine Life,

76 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

knows no sense of incompleteness or lack
when celibate. If those upon whom circum¬
stances force celibacy would rise into the
higher air of spiritual a&ivity instead of
fretting behind the bars, they would find
that they had attained an inner fulfilment,
and, being in circuit with the universe, they
were no longer incomplete.

X

THE SEX LIFE OF THE CHILD
HE psychological doctrines of Freud

A are a moSi important contribution to
modern thought, as epoch-making in their
sphere as was the doctrine of evolution,
but like evolution, they are liable to mis¬
understanding, exaggerations and abuse.
Wider experience has forced a retreat from
some of the positions which it was believed
had been conquered in the firSt rush of
enthusiasm, and though many of the general
principles have found acceptance, it is by
no manner of means certain that all the
deductions made from them will hold good.
While experts suspend judgment, it is as
well for the layman to be very cautious.

The teaching of the New Psychology
concerning the sex life of the child has been
very much misunderstood and misapplied.

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78 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY
There is a great divergence of scientific
opinion, and the two chief authorities on
the subjeCt, Jung and Freud, disagree on
important points.

So far as my own observation goes, I think
that we make a midake when we apply the
word sexuality to the activities of a young
child with the same meaning with which
we should apply it to the same activities in
an adult. It would be jud as misleading if
we were to use the word c whiskers 5 for
the soft down on a child’s cheek. True, it
will become whiskers in time, but it has
not done so yet, and is dill down. The
child-consciousness contains the seeds which
will germinate into sex during adolescence,
but these are certainly not c sex ’ as the
word is ordinarily under Stood. In abnormal
and pathological cases premature develop¬
ment may take place, but in the healthy
child the development is in proportion to
its years, and it is a great midake to apply
the findings of abnormal psychology to the
normal, for we may thereby induce the
very condition we wish to guard againd.

THE SEX LIFE OF THE CHILD 79

It is curiosity rather than luSt that is the
motive in the average child’s sex life, and
the impulse that prompts it is the urge for
adaptation to environment. The curiosity
of the average child under the age of
puberty is quite remote from any idea of
personal gratification. It does not apply to
itself the information it receives concerning
the mysterious c ways ’ of grown-ups, and
the knowledge it has obtained of the pos¬
sibilities of sensation in its own body do not
get associated with its sex knowledge until
a much later date. It finds that certain
parts of its body are more sensitive than
others, and that the sensation is pleasurable,
therefore it plays with them, juSt as it shakes
its rattle inSiead of its woolly ball, because
the former gives better results than the
latter.

If as a consequence of too much Stimulus
a premature awakening of a&ivity is in¬
duced, then we may get the development
of a true masturbation habit, but to regard
the universal investigation of a baby’s fingers
as sexual activity is absurd, it investigates

80 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

its toes and nose equally impartially ; it
would be much more c marked ’ if, in its
adivities, it deliberately ignored a particular
part of its anatomy.

A new-born child is not yet used to its
body, and derives interest from all its
sensations, and one of its chief interests,
after food, is excretion. Freud sees in its
interest in food a sexual adivity, and mod
psychologists see a sexual fador in its
intered in excretion, but in my opinion we
should be nearer the mark if we said that
the very young child is interested in bodily
sensation as such; it is concerned with its
sensory syStem rather than its reprodudive
mechanism, and the fad that the genital
organs come in for their share of investiga¬
tion does not necessarily show a pre¬
occupation with sex on the part of the
child ; it is only when they can be shown
to come in for more than their fair share of
investigation that we can talk about un¬
desirable adivities. The baby’s view-point
is very different to the adult’s, for he has
no repressions imposed by education, and

THE SEX LIFE OF THE CHILD 81

we have to look at things from his Stand¬
point, if we are to arrive at the significance
of his activities. Many a child is simply
puzzled by the line an adult takes with
regard to aCts which have for him no
significance, but which speedily acquire
one from the importance which appears to
be attached to them by the arbiters of his
fate. It is far better to turn a child’s
attention to other interests than to rivet it
on the undesired activity by admonitions.

With the growing complexity of a baby’s
life, impressions coming from the outside
compete for his interest with the sensations
of his own body, and earlier avenues
of interest, having been explored, are
abandoned in favour of more exciting
activities, and it is not until the true sex
tides, rising at puberty, begin to flow in
the original channels, that he realises the
significance of those channels, and when
this realisation dawns, a very large pro¬
portion of children pull themselves together
and break bad habits of their own accord,
parents and nurses often being ignorant

82 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

that these habits ever exited ; such at any
rate is the information I have received from
a number of patients undergoing psycho¬
analysis.

The question of co-education is a moSt
important one in relation to the child’s sex
life. It should be considered from two
points of view, however, for the reactions of
a child from a large family of children,
separated from each other as to age by a
year or two at moSt, a child of a natural
family, in fad, accuStomed to nursery inti¬
macies, is quite different to that of the only
child, or child from a family of one sex
only.

A child will accept unthinkingly any¬
thing to which it is accuStomed, but to take
a child from a sheltered environment and
pitchfork it headlong into a mixed school
with sex teaching ad lib . from Strangers, is
to give that child a shock.

It is argued that Nature mixes the sexes
in families, and therefore we should do the
same in our institutions, but it is not also
observed that in species with a highly

THE SEX LIFE OF THE CHILD 83

evolved social life, Nature separates the ado -
lescents ! The young males are driven out
from the herd until such time as they are
come to their Strength and can take and
keep a mate.

In my opinion, the ‘ nursery intimacy 5
of the infant school is a good thing, but I
consider that co-education during the diffi¬
cult years of puberty is putting a very great
Strain on both the educational syStem and
human nature, and that both sexes can be
given a very much better training if they
are kept apart during the perplexing years
of emotional instability.

I am quite aware that this attitude is
rank heresy in the eyes of the exponents of
the New Psychology, but I have often been
amazed of the capacity of the devotees of
that Still immature science for not looking
at things they do not want to see.

A very great feature is made in modern
psychology of the CEdipus complex, or
fixation of the child’s affe&ions on the
parent of the opposite sex, and while I am
quite prepared to agree that this fixation

84 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

causes a certain type of pathology, I am
not prepared to admit its truth for the
average healthy child.

In assessing the parents 5 influence over
the child, we mud not forget the natural
hyper-suggedibility of childhood and the
enormous prestige of the parent as the
arbiter of fate. The child’s affedion for the
parent of the opposite sex to its own may
not be altogether unmotived by the fad
that the parent of the same sex is usually
the disciplinarian. The father thrashes the
boys and the mother spanks the girls, or
administers whatever the modern psycho¬
logical nursery is obliged to rely on as the
unavoidable equivalent, if such can be
found.

We have yet to see what manner of
complex the modern unrepressed child will
develop when it meets the pressure of the
world as a wage-earner, and finds in £ a
week’s notice ’ the delayed equivalent of
the much-needed parental slipper.

XI

SEX ENLIGHTENMENT
HE beSt method of enlightening a

X child on sex subjeds is another vexed
question in modern psychology. That the
old-fashioned method of a conspiracy of
silence was bad, there can be no question,
for it caused the child to live in an unreal
world and made the problem of his adapta¬
tion to environment much more difficult.
Neither sex had an understanding of the
sex-life and needs of the other, and had to
work out the problem experimentally during
the early years of married life, often with
disastrous results.

On the other hand it is probable that the
readion to an extreme frankness will also
be found to have its drawbacks. Ignorance
and fear may have been a poor basis on
which to build morality, but if they are

86 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

eliminated, something muSt be put in their
place to safeguard sex from misuse.

The more ignorant we a^e of the physi¬
ology of sex, the more difficult it is for us
to deal with it, and the fad that sex is an
unsolved riddle makes life very difficult for
those whose upbringing has kept them in
ignorance. Even if a person is not likely to
marry, it is well for them to underhand the
fads of life, otherwise they may be living
in an unreal world, a ‘ Fools’ Paradise ’
that has no relation to reality. We need to
Study the processes of reprodudion juSt as
impartially as we Study the processes of
digeStion. If the bare minimum of in¬
formation be hinted at, certain sedions
revealed to the boy, and certain sedions
to the girl, and the rest Still shrouded in
myStery, the real value of enlightenment is
loSt.

Sex physiology should be dealt with from
the scientific, not from the sentimental
asped when it is being imparted. The
processes of reprodudion should be Studied
without personal reference and without

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87

apology ; they should, in fad, be de-
emotionalised when they are being taught,
and the idealistic and ethical side should be
dealt with separately. Sex knowledge is
not a thing to be afraid of, but it is a thing
to be handled carefully. When sex know¬
ledge is given, it should be adapted to the
needs of the recipient. A child should
never be deliberately misled, but neither
should he be encouraged to look upon sex
as a commonplace phenomenon, or embaras-
sing situations may result. From the earliest
years a child should be taught to regard the
Coming of Life as a sacred myStery. It is
impossible to give any adequate idea of the
physiology of procreation to a very young
child, and in my opinion the be£t way to
deal with questions which may often be idle
questions and asked with no glimmering of
their significance, is to tell the child the
thing he has noticed concerns the Great
MySiery of the Coming of Life, and that
he will be told all about it when the time
comes for him to know about such things,
until then, it is a sacred secret.

88 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

As soon, however, as children show a
definite curiosity regarding sex, as dis¬
tinguished from a natural interest in the
inexplicable behaviour of the family pets,
let them be told that if they really desire
a knowledge of the sacred secret, it shall be
given them, and let the communication of
sex knowledge be made a solemn initiation.
This will Samp it with the association of
sacredness and reverence, from which no
subsequent experiences will ever be able
entirely to divorce it, and will effectually
shield the child from the dangers of igno¬
rance without cheapening the mo£t sacred
myStery of life.

To my mind, the forced casualness with
which enlightenment is often given, with
illustrations from the garden and farmyard,
debases and familiarises the whole concept,
and makes the love of man and woman
appear a very simple and commonplace
affair, which it is not. Although our
methods of reproduction have a very great
many points in common with those of the
other vertebrates, it is not those aspects

SEX ENLIGHTENMENT 89

which need emphasising, but rather those
which are characteristically human and
serve to distinguish us from the animals.

Sex purity is not adequately protected by
a veil of ignorance, nor yet by threats of
disease and disgrace ; its own inherent
myStery and sanCtity is its be£t protection,
and if this asped of it be presented to the
child-mind on its firSt enquiries, the impres¬
sion will be ineffaceable.

The very young child, up to the dawning
of puberty, shows, in my experience, little
inclination to associate the idea of re¬
production with the possibilities of its own
nature. It forms a part of the life of c grown¬
ups , 5 and is too remote to affeCt himself;
he regards the sensations of his body as
having no connection with the mysterious
process whereby his father and mother gave
him life, and when the idea is presented to
him, it makes a profound impression, and
the child is awe-Struck when he realises the
powers that lie hidden within him. There
is no more effectual way of keeping children
from undesirable practices than to tell them

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THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

that the organs with which they are playing
are the ones that will enable them to be
fathers and mothers in the future, and that
if they do not treat them with very great
care and reverence, they will spoil them.

One of the mo£t effe&ual ways of impres¬
sing older children in the early ’teens at a
time when ethical and religious considera¬
tions are apt to be looked upon as ‘ tosh,’
is to make them feel the pride of race, an
ideal to which they very readily respond at
this age, and to show them that they are
the inheritors of the greatness of the paft
and that they mu£t hand on the torch of
life undimmed to their successors. Make
them realise the powers within them, and
they will respond in a moSt remarkable
fashion to the appeal. Tell them that they
muft treat their bodies with reverence so
that a fine and virile race may spring from
them, and they will fight their own battles
with bad habits far more effe&ually than
any amount of threats and supervision can
induce them to do.

I have always found that even quite

SEX ENLIGHTENMENT 91

small children will take sex very seriously,
and adolescents will respond magnificently
to the ideal of racial responsibility at a time
when religious and ethical appeals will
often leave them cold, or even contemptuous.
The religious life is not a thing which can
be forced into a&ivity, and unless it is
spontaneously a&ive, an appeal to it will
supply no motive.

XII

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF MODESTY
HE significance of modeSiy is very

JL little understood, and I am not aware
of any psychological explanation thereof
which appeals to me as satisfactory. Pro¬
fessor WeStermarck, in a paper read before
the British Society for the Study of Sex
Psychology, suggested that the inStinCt of
modeSty was implanted in the race by the
faCt that those engaged in the sex aCt were
for the moment defenceless, and therefore
found it advisable to conceal themselves
from their enemies.

This appears to me to be a moSt inadequate
explanation, and as remote from life as
much laboratory psychologising is apt to be.
It seems to me that we should recognise two
types of modefty, the spontaneous shrinking,
and the demureness practised for fear of

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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF MODESTY 93

herd censure for immodesty. A young child
is a perfedly blatant creature, but an
adolescent is a very shy person. The child
in whom sex is undeveloped juSt doesn’t
care, and merely defers to the opinions of
grown-ups with regard to propriety. He
is not modeSt so much as polite. The person
in whom sex forces are developed, however,
will lean either to shyness or display ; and
the Stronger the forces of his nature, the
further he will lean in either diredion.

The whole issue seems to me to hinge on
the question of appetite, whether the indi¬
vidual is in a State of hunger or satiety.
When we are hungry the smell of food
seems delicious, but after a meal it seems
disguSting, and so it is with sex desires.

But in the case of sex we have to remember
that there is a very large mental and
emotional fador to be considered. A person
may be in a State of sex hunger in the
abStrad, as it were, but when it comes to
the adual prosped of satisfying that hunger,
a number of aesthetic, emotional and ideal¬
istic considerations have to be taken into

94 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY
account. A Starving man will not eat grass,
and until a person is thoroughly debauched
and demoralised he will not look upon
any and every specimen of the opposite sex
as a possible mate.

We muSt therefore have an emotional as
well as a physical hunger before we are
prepared to mate ; and if this complete
hunger is not present, we shall be in the
State of the person who, after a full meal,
smells food and is nauseated thereby. The
sex-call will evoke repulsion, and the fa&or
of a&ive repulsion in the absence of desire
is, in my opinion, at the root of modeSty,
for we inStin&ively avoid arousing sex desire
if that attention is not welcome to us.

These considerations do not, of course,
apply to a nature that has been debauched,
whose modeSty is then of the demure type
that pays tribute to the force majeure of
public opinion ; but when the nature is
unspoiled, it will tend towards an un¬
sophisticated display of charms before the
one whose admiration is desired, and an
inclination to keep quiet or hide in the

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF MODESTY 95

presence of the bold suitor whose attentions
are not welcome.

In fad, the essence of modeSty is the
avoidance of provocativeness when sex
advances are not desired.

It is in this that all cuStoms regarding the
avoidance of anything sugge&ive have their
psychological root and all legislation regard¬
ing indecency and obscenity its justification.
It is not, of course, possible to regulate by
law what people shall or shall not do in
private, and to attempt to do so by means
of legal penalties is to open the way to
blackmail, but we can at leaSt see to it that
sexual Stimuli are not forced on the attention
of those who do not wish to be Stimulated,
and therefore the prohibition of the public
sale and advertising of pornographic litera¬
ture, the presentation of objedionable plays
and of soliciting in the Streets is, in my
opinion, moSt emphatically in the public
interest.

Young fellows in the later years of
adolescence can be so cleverly wrought upon
through the eye and ear that they are no

96 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY
more master of their own aftions than they
would be if they were drunk, and in such
a Sate they are at the mercy of harpies.

I do not advocate a censorship of publica¬
tions or of art exhibitions or private per¬
formances of plays, because it is extremely
difficult to say what is artistically justifiable,
and one generation’s 5 shockers 9 are the
next generation’s bores, neither should any
limit be set to scientific investigation and
the communication of its results to bona fide
Students, but the erotic should only be
obtainable by those who definitely set out
with the intention of obtaining it, whether
their motive be good or bad according to
popular Standards; it should not be forced
on the attention of those who do not desire
it. Therefore I advocate the reStri&ion of the
public and indiscriminate proffering of any
form of suggeStiveness, and of the advertis¬
ing of any type of sex interest or any form
of propaganda of immorality, but I do not
advocate any legislative attempt to prevent
the private pursuit of such interests, firSlly,
because of the difficulty of determining what

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF MODESTY 97

is legitimate and what is not, under any
given set of circumstances ; and secondly,
the impossibility of enforcing any such set
of laws without the assistance of the spy
and informer, who are very apt to make
the assistance of juStice a by-produd of the
chief industry of blackmail.

The immature are already protected from
outrage by the law, and those who have
advances made to them which they do not
desire, have the option of declining or, if
the advances are made forcibly, bringing an
adion for assault, in which case the law,
though quite rightly demanding independent
evidence, looks with severity upon the
offender when the case is proved. The
solution of the problem of purity does not
lie so much in the changing of the law in
this resped:, as in a more effedual enforce¬
ment of the law we already have, and this
is beset by certain difficulties, which would
apply equally to any law that might be
framed. In the firSt place, it is exceedingly
difficult to get the person who is the vidim
of any sexual outrage to prosecute or even

98 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

give evidence, because the loss of virginity
is so seriously regarded, even if the virginity
be loft through rape, and the vidim be
entirely innocent of any moral fault. It
is only the very public-spirited or the very
vindidive who will prosecute under such
circumftances.

The publicity of our courts may have a
beneficent effed on the adminiftration of
juftice and a deterrent effed on certain
classes of crimes, but it certainly has the
very opposite effed in certain other classes,
where the criminal trades on the know¬
ledge that his vidim will not face the
publicity of a prosecution. The only remedy
for such cases is to hear them in camera ,
even if it means depriving some of the
Sunday papers of their principal news-
items.

Wholesome publicity can be maintained
by having a brief report of the proceedings
printed with all names and means of
identification left out.

XIII

THE PROBLEM OF SELF-ABUSE

S ELF-ABUSE may be defined as the
artificial production of the reactions of
the sex organs, and the whole problem
arising out of it wants to be looked at calmly
and impartially if it is to be rightly under¬
stood and dealt with. Some people hold
that self-abuse is a deadly danger, and
others that it is entirely innocuous. Speak¬
ing from a wide experience of masturbation
cases, I am of the opinion that neither
concept is a fair Statement. The amount
of harm done by masturbation depends
upon the extent to which it is practised,
but though nobody can be at their beSt
either mentally or physically while indulg¬
ing in this habit, which is a very exhauSting
one, I have never known it to leave laSting
physical effeCts behind, and recuperation

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is rapid when it is discontinued. The
breaking of the habit of self-abuse is not a
difficult matter when its psychology is
understood.

It has been my invariable experience with
regard to those addided to this habit, and
I have dealt with a very large number of
cases, that they invariably use phantasy
and mental pidures to supply the lack of a
partner in their pleasures, and in this
phantasy lies the key to the problem of
self-abuse, for if it be avoided, the ad gives
the purely negative satisfadion of physical
relief, and soon loses its power and tends
to be discontinued.

The adual physical readions of self¬
abuse are exadly the same as those of
normal intercourse, it is in the mental and
emotional aspeds that the difference is
felt; and it is because the whole of the
higher significance of sex is lod that its
baser aspeds are exclusively developed by
this pradice. As far as the physical evils
of self-abuse are concerned, they lie, firmly
in the premature development of sex adivity,

THE PROBLEM OF SELF-ABUSE ioi

and the consequent checking of the general
growth and development ; and secondly,
as do the ill effects of normal intercourse,
even in marriage, in overdoing it ; and as
the means of satisfa&ion in self-abuse are
always to hand and coSt nothing, it is
exceedingly likely to be indulged in too
freely when once the habit has been acquired.

If a man has a large bank balance, he
can afford to spend large sums without
overdrawing, but if his income be small,
he will soon cripple his resources by prodigal
expenditure. The amount of energy that
we can afford to express as sex depends on
the amount of general energy that is avail¬
able, and if we expend too much, we shall
suffer from exhaustion, be unfit for work,
and an easy prey to disease. This applies
to married life juSt as much to irregular
unions and self-abuse.

On the other hand, as soon as sexual
excess is discontinued, the syStem speedily
recovers, and for this reason some dodors
do not hesitate to recommend masturbation
as a solution of the sex problem. There is,

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however, a certain after-effed of self-abuse
which has to be reckoned with if it be
adopted by adults, and that is the formation
of a definite habit of sex rea&ion, so that
none other is possible, and they are unfitted
for marriage. This is not so serious in the
case of a woman as a man, because she,
being the passive partner, can gradually
acquire new rea&ion habits in the course
of a few months’ experience of normal
married life ; whereas a man, being the
a&ive partner, if he acquire abnormal
rea&ion habits, will find himself unable to
respond to normal Stimuli, and therefore
unable to play his part, and he cannot
acquire new rea&ion habits by experience,
because he is unable to make a beginning.
Therefore I consider masturbation a much
more serious matter in a man than in a
woman. It also in both sexes produces
inability to feel sex pleasure if much indulged
in, and so is apt to lead to abnormal forms
of gratification.

Playing with the genital organs is almoSt
universal in small children, but there is a

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great difference between a child experi¬
menting with a vague and undeveloped
sensation the significance of which it does
not realise, and the confirmed adult mastur¬
bator on whom this form of gratification
has become a fixed habit, rendering normal
relations impossible.

A certain amount of self-abuse is ex¬
ceedingly common in older children and
adolescents, and as long as it is not excessive
and is not continued into adulthood, it does
not seem to leave any after-effe&s when it
has been discontinued. It is a great mistake
to try and frighten children out of this habit
by telling them of the dreadful diseases it
brings ; in the firSt place, it is not true, and
in the second, it fixes thought on the
problem to be solved, which is beSt dealt
with by thinking of something else and
getting other interests. I have indicated in
the chapter on sex enlightenment the line
I should take in such cases, and this,
together with wise attention to hygiene and
regime, and inStru&ion in the sex control
methods explained in the earlier chapters,

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ought to solve the problem. But never on
any account threaten a child with perma¬
nent disability as the result of his adions,
even if it seems likely to result, because the
consequent auto-suggestion of fear is moSt
disastrous, and may even lead to hypo¬
chondriasis. I should never advise anyone
to try self-abuse as a therapeutic measure,
although I know it is sometimes recom¬
mended even by qualified medical men
as a means of transition in the difficult
journey from debauchery to continence in
cases where the sex problem is a very
difficult one. There are medicines which
have the effed of lowering the sex pressure,
and the use of these is much to be preferred
to acquiring the habit of self-abuse, which
merely substitutes King Stork for King Log.
Such a method is analogous to the use of
habit-forming drugs, they may tide over
a crisis in an acute illness, but if used
regularly, produce a disease of their own.
The other alternative more frequently re¬
commended, of resorting to those vidims of
society, professional prostitutes, is a course

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as risky to health and reputation as it is
abhorent to decent feeling.

The method of thought-control recom¬
mended in these pages, if followed with
persistence and common sense, will prove
adequate in nine cases out of ten, whether
those cases be of a normal sex impulse or
of self-abuse. The tenth case, however,
requires further help, and recourse should
be had to a dodor who specialises in such
cases to see whether any physical cause
may be at the bottom of the trouble, and
under his supervision such treatment can
be followed as will probably give great
relief and make the problem of acquiring
self-control very much easier. In fad, in
any case where sexual excesses have pro¬
duced a neurasthenic or exhausted condition,
it is as well to have medical advice, for so
much can be done in the way of building
up the depleted nervous syftem and improv¬
ing the general health. It is much easier
to work out the problem of acquiring
self-control when the general health is
good than when the nerves are all to pieces

106 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

and insomnia has become an additional
problem.

Nevertheless, such physical helps as a
good doftor can afford should only be used
as a means of tiding over a difficult time ;
drugs should not be regular articles of diet,
and as the sex problem is with us from
adolescence to senility, we ought to learn
to manage it by the normal means of self-
maftery through thought-control. To have
to rely on a bottle of physic to keep us from
sin is unmanly.

XIV

ABNORMAL FORMS OF SEXUALITY

W E might define the normal forjn of
sex relationship as that which leads
to the procreation of children. This, after
all, is Nature’s aim, and if we frustrate
Nature’s aim, we are doing something
unnatural.

Abnormal forms of sexuality, or perver¬
sions, are not as uncommon as people who
have not Studied the matter may think, and
that is the reason they are referred to in
this book. Self-abuse is, of course, an
abnormal form of sexuality, and therefore
a perversion, but the next mo£t common is
homosexuality, which has been greatly on
the increase of recent years.

Homosexuality is the production of sex
reactions by or upon one of the same sex.
There is no need in a book of this nature,

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intended for the lay reader, to go into the
details of any of the perversions ; such
information often has the effed of darting
people upon the pradice againd which it
warns them, jud as Bluebeard’s wife could
not resid the forbidden room ; it is enough
to know that the sex indind is sometimes
subjed to deformities so that these, if they
be met with, can be recognised and under-
dood.

In homosexuality a love is bedowed on
one of the same sex such as should normally
be given to one of the opposite sex. This
love may or may not find physical expres¬
sion ; not every person with homosexual
impulses descends to the pradice of un¬
natural vice ; he or she may, like any other
person who loves some one they cannot
marry, keep the expression of their feelings
within the bounds of propriety, and some
of the world’s bed work, especially in the
arts, has been done by people whose feelings
could have no natural outlet. It mud be
clearly realised, if the homosexual is to be
underdood and helped, that his feelings

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appear to him to be pure and natural, and
that normal love makes no appeal and
gives no satisfaction ; he is, however, in
the position of a person who is not able to
offer marriage to the object of his affections,
and to offer love under conditions is dis¬
honourable and can bring nothing but
suffering in its train ; and therefore he,
like the consumptive, is forced by the nature
of his malady to deny himself the gratifica¬
tion of his feelings.

Some schools of psychological thought
incline to the opinion that the homo¬
sexual represents a third, or Intermediate
Sex, and that his view-point xmght to be
accepted as normal; but anyone who has
Studied the subject and seen the effeCt of
unnatural vice on the nervous syStem cannot
fail to see that the whole condition is abnor¬
mal and harmful. It is also infectious, for
the homosexualiSt, unlike the maSturbator,
needs a partner in his pleasures, and there¬
fore is always on the look-out for possible
converts, and as the habit of unnatural vice
is easily acquired, and once acquired, not

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so easy to break, it is a serious matter if
homosexual propaganda Starts in any com¬
munity. I have seen a wave of unnatural
vice go right through a hoStel for professional
women, and many a neurotic can trace the
beginning of his troubles back to unfortunate
incidents at school. Experienced school¬
masters know what to look out for, and
expulsion follows quickly on dete&ion, but
home-keeping women are not so well in¬
formed. They need to know that when
two people of the same sex play at being
husband and wife, indulging in the kissing
and cuddling one usually associates with
engaged couples, and show the intensity of
emotion and jealousy of a passionate love
affair, all is not well.

There are two other types of deformity
of the love nature which need to be under¬
stood in order that they may be recognised ;
they are not nearly so common as the types
we have already considered, but when they
occur they cause a great deal of trouble
and misunderstanding because they are
very often not understood even by the

ABNORMAL FORMS OF SEXUALITY hi

person who is experiencing them. These
are known as sadism and masochism, so
called after two novelists who made these
forms of love the basis of their novels. In
sadism, the idea of cruelty is associated with
the idea of love, and is the cause of many
murders as well as an unnatural violence of
temper in married life which is sometimes
revealed in divorce court Stories. In maso¬
chism, however, the idea is to inflid suffering
on oneself, and much morbid jealousy has
its root in this cause. The psychology of
both sadism and masochism is obscure, and
their treatment Still more so, but their
nature should be understood for two reasons,
firStly, because the method of dealing with
people who have these abnormal impulses
is quite different to that meted out to one
who is deliberately wicked. The firSt inti¬
mation a person may have that one of these
impulses is present in his nature is to find
that he has aded upon it in a moment of
emotional excitement, and as realisation
dawns, he is bewildered and horrified at
his handiwork. A realisation of the nature

i ia THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

of the weakness is often sufficient to prevent
its ever being allowed to get the upper hand
again, and if the injured party realises that
he or she is not dealing with a case of moral
delinquency, but rather with a pathological
impulse of the same type that causes people
to turn giddy and fall off ladders, compassion
will take the place of fear, hate or disguSi,
and a soul be saved that would otherwise
be thruSt into the outer darkness of social
ostracism.

Secondly, the Stories told by those who
are the vidims of sadiSts are so wild that
they are frequently not believed and at¬
tributed to hySteria, but it is very difficult
to set a limit to what a real sadiSt will do ;
and the fad that a man or woman is normal
and kindly in other relations of life is no
evidence in disproof of sadism. Now that
women sit upon juries, they will frequently
have to pass judgment on the handiwork of
a sadiSt, and they need to understand things
from which they have previously been
sheltered ; it was for this reason that there
arose the better type of opposition to giving

ABNORMAL FORMS OF SEXUALITY 113

the suffrage and civic rights to women ;
but it is only when men and women co¬
operate in dealing with the problems of
sex that they can be solved, and while a
woman’s Standard of purity makes her Stern
in her condemnation of sin, her spirit of
compassion makes her seek to save the
sinner, and while safeguarding society, to
try to heal rather than to punish crime.

H

XV

WISDOM IN LOVE

I N these days of free social intercourse
between the sexes we need to have a
clear concept of the line of demarcation
which divides friendship from love. To
embark upon a love affair which has no
chance of ending in marriage is to invite
anguish and trouble; in the old days
parents saw to it that young people did not
compromise themselves with anyone with
whom marriage was undesirable or impos¬
sible, but in these days girls, like Becky
Sharp, have ‘ got to be their own mammas/
and with strong but unrealised in&inds
urging them on and no knowledge or
experience to ad as a break, wisdom is
often bought at the price of suffering, if
nothing worse.

Young people think of love as an emotion

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WISDOM IN LOVE 115

and do not realise that it is a passion until
they are in its throes and reason is thrown
to the winds. Skylarking and horse-play
camouflage what is really courtship, and the
barriers of modeSy, whose sudden breaking
would be resented, get gradually worn
away under a progressive familiarity. To
a mixture of licence and ignorance add a
few cocktails, and the resulting compound
is a highly inflammable one.

The entrance of sex feelings into a relation¬
ship can always be recognised by two things,
the desire to touch, and the desire for
exclusive possession. As long as a friend¬
ship is free from any impulse to cuddling
or jealousy, it is safe and wholesome, but
as soon as either of these appear, whoever
does not wish to pursue that friendship to
the goal of marriage should make their
position quite clear, and if necessary break
off the friendship before the deeper feelings
are involved.

It is a reliable maxim in sex matters that
‘ if you take the firS Sep, you will take the
laS,’ and once familiarity is allowed to pass

116 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

the bounds of propriety and the ice of
modesty is broken, it is only a matter of
time till the plunge is made into the dark
waters of the underworld. Passions are
Sirred and principles thrown to the wind.
To play with sex is to play with fire, and
the fire that burning safely in its proper
place, the domeSic hearth, warms the
home, may, nay, mod certainly will, dart
a dangerous conflagration if it be kindled
in other places. Young people jud awaken¬
ing to adulthood, and having no experience
of the dangerous brightness of the consuming
flame, have no idea how quickly the pleasant
spark of an apparently harmless flirtation
may blaze into an uncontrollable fire.

It is a sense of the sandity of love which
is the greated protedion, a feeling that sex
is not a thing to be played with, but to be
guarded as something sacred. Girls should
realise that the male view-point when it
comes to love, divides women into two
classes, potential wives and potential mis¬
tresses, and that they never confuse the two
nor transfer a girl from the one to the other

WISDOM IN LOVE 117

class when once she has been classified.
An honourable man never makes love to a
woman unless he is seeking to win her as
his wife, neither does an honourable woman
encourage attentions unless she is prepared
to consider that man as a possible husband.
As one of the cow-boy characters in that
delightful Story, The Virginian , said of
the heroine, c she’s square, she don’t take
a man’s presents unless she means to take
the man.’ Such fugitive gifts as sweets, and
flowers and other small tokens are parts of
pleasant social intercourse and need have
no special significance, but if gifts of in¬
trinsic value are offered, it should be
realised that they are meant to be c payment
on account,’ and that their acceptance
indicates to the mind of the giver that the
c delivery of the goods*’ will be forthcoming.

A man who is wooing a woman for his
wife desires not only her acceptance of him,
but also her family’s acceptance of him
and his family’s acceptance of her. A man,
on the other hand, who is merely amusing
himself with a girl, is anxious that the affair

118 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

should not come to the knowledge of either
family. By observing whether a man is
secretive or open in his attentions, a woman
will be able to form a pretty good opinion
as to whether his intentions are honourable
or the reverse.

I do not wish it to be thought that I
decry the wholesome and helpful comrade¬
ship of boy and girl, or man and woman ;
that again& which I wish to utter a word
of warning is the gradual sliding from such
a friendship into the intimacy which is the
beginning of sex relations ; a possibility
which ignorance and innocence does not
susped.

I have been astonished at the extent to
which, since the war, educated girls have
gone ‘ week-ending,’ believing themselves
secure in a knowledge of contraceptives.
Did they know as much about these devices
as those who did the research work on them,
they would feel a little less secure. There
is only one thing certain about contra¬
ceptives, and that is their uncertainty. A
contraceptive has to guard againSt some-

WISDOM IN LOVE 119

thing that is microscopic, exceedingly adive,
and exceedingly tenacious of life, and re¬
quires very careful technique for its proper
use ; and while it reduces the likelihood of
conception, never entirely eliminates it.
It is reckoned that contraceptives, carefully
used, will give a 90 per cent degree of safety,
but there is always the remaining 10 per
cent to be reckoned with, which is protected
by nothing but the god of chance, and the
pitcher that goes often enough to the well
gets broken in the end. The girl who
truSts her reputation to contraceptives will
get ‘ caught out ’ sooner or later.

Some ignorant wiseacres think that, as a
second Siring to their bow in case contra¬
ceptives fail, they can have recourse to
abortion. Now an abortion is the deliberate
inducing of a miscarriage, and is severely
punishable under the criminal law. It is,
of course, the murder of the unborn child,
which is a living being from the time of its
conception although it has not yet taken
up a separate existence. The mother her¬
self runs a greater risk in undergoing an

120 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

abortion than she does in a normal labour,
for at full term, all the tissues that have to
separate have undergone certain changes
so that they part easily, but when labour
is artificially induced these tissues are vio¬
lently torn apart and parts of them may
remain adhering to the wall of the womb,
where they die, decompose, and set up
blood-poisoning. If through the adion of
any two people a living soul has set out on
its journey through life (even if that soul is
unwanted), there is only one thing to be
done, according to the laws of both God
and man, and that is, to shoulder the
responsibility that has been undertaken
and do the bed that can be done for that
child. If the ordeal be well and nobly
faced it will go far to redeem the original
error. The lapse of time has a wonderful
way of solving problems that appear in¬
superable at the moment, and the word
Storms blow themselves out with its passage.
The bed way to deal with the problem of
the illegitimate child is to admit the error
and take up the burden. Every one respeds

WISDOM IN LOVE 12 1

a courageous attempt to make amends for
a wrong that has been done, and more
hands will be held out to help than to throw
Slones under such circumstances. There
are many societies that exiSt for the purpose
of helping in such a difficulty, and the
beSt person to confide in is the family doCtor
or some other qualified medical man in
good Standing. He will know the way to
obtain the help that is needed and the beSt
organisations to go to, for he is used to
having such problems brought to him in
the course of his work, and he is bound to
both secrecy and honourable dealing by
the rules of his profession. The one person
not to go to is the unqualified practitioner,
or the nurse who is willing to break the
rules of her profession and undertake such
a case without a doCtor. No reputable
person will risk their professional position
and the life of their patient by doing such
a thing, it is only the sweepings of the
medical or nursing profession that will do
it, and such hands are not safe ones to be
in such a crisis.

122 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

When it is realised how wonderful is the
mechanism by which life comes into the
world, it will also be realised that it is not
lightly to be set in motion. It mud never
be forgotten that even the moS normal
child-birth causes severe suffering and any
abnormality involves grave risk and the
intervention of a surgeon. The slighted
dirt or contamination causes blood-poison¬
ing ; bleeding often occurs and is some¬
times very difficult to Slop, and if the labour
is prolonged, the heart may give out under
the Strain. It will therefore be seen what
a terrible ordeal a man exposes a woman
to when he asks her to risk facing child¬
birth if he cannot provide her with the care
she needs at such a time. True love does not
ask it; the love that makes such demands
has its roots in sensuality and selfishness.

I have never yet seen an irregular union
which has proved to be permanent. Curious
psychological fadors come into play in such
a union, fadors which do not show them¬
selves in the ordinary way of life, and in
these lies hidden the beginning of the end.

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123

As soon as a woman yields herself to a man
in an unsanCtified union, she loses caSte in
his eyes, and as soon as a man asks this
sacrifice of a woman to whom he cannot
offer the protection of his name, she feels
that his love is selfish and his character
contains the elements of weakness. The
rift within the lute has appeared, though
invisible to the eye, and however the lips
may protect to the contrary, the inborn
Standards of judgment are at work in the
subconscious mind.

Finally, there is the problem of the
illegitimate child which may be the out¬
come of such a union ; caSt upon the world,
homeless, nameless, unprotected, its feet
tread a hard path ; the thought of this
should Stay the hand when all other con¬
siderations fail.

What shall be said to the man or woman
who has had to learn that evil is evil by
experiencing it ? Is it possible for a soul
to rise like a phoenix from the ashes of its
paSt, or are there some things which leave
an indelible impression upon it ? I have

124 THE problem of purity

seen a great many men and women who
have come up from the depths, and I have
always observed that if there is sufficient
COURAGE , any error can be redeemed.
If we make mistakes, we have, however, to
be prepared to pay the price, and if, facing
the issue squarely, we shoulder the con¬
sequences of our mistakes and pay off the
debt without whining, we can make good,
not only in our own eyes and in the sight
of God, but of our fellow-men also. The
world is kinder than it used to be, and
people resped a courageous attempt to
redeem the pad, however bad it may have
been, and many hands are held out to
help. Those who point the finger of scorn
are beneath contempt, and the dones they
throw at the soul that is druggling to its
feet are generally hurled back at them by
the onlookers. The honed admission of an
error and the fixed determination to make
good, command resped, and as soon as we
set out to arise and go to our Father we
find that there is a great undercurrent that
sets Godward. People may say they do

WISDOM IN LOVE

25

not believe in prayer because when they
prayed for a fine day for a picnic, they did
not get it, but there are more kinds of
prayer than that, and the cry for spiritual
help from the soul that admits its mistakes
and is fighting to the limit of its Strength
produces some very surprising results.

The confession of sin as a preliminary to
reform is a very deep-rooted inStind of the
soul, an inStind which it is sound psychology
to obey ; and even in those faiths which
do not make systematic use of confession, it
is generally possible to find a wise, kindly,
and spiritually-minded minister who will
help in the bearing of the burden.

But in any case, let us remember that
repentance means a turning again, a re¬
tracing of the Steps that have gone aStray,
not collapsing in an abjed heap of misery ;
and let us, moreover, distinguish between
true repentance, and the self-pity that
comes when the inevitable discovery is
made that the wages of sin is death. I
cannot believe that God likes snivellers,
however pious ; but the man or woman

126 THE PROBLEM OF PURITY

who, however evil has been their life,
dands upright, and then walks with un¬
flinching feet over the burning coals till
they come back to the Straight and narrow
way, has surely redeemed any pad, how¬
ever bad. “ And when he was yet a great
way off, his Father saw him, and ran to
him .’ 5 When we set out to go to God, we
meet Him a great deal sooner than we
expeCt.

The bed attitude towards an unfortunate
experience is that which Kipling applied
to a disadrous war, “ We had an im¬
perial lesson, It will make us an empire
yet ! ”

There is so much more in love than desire
for the beloved, so much more in sex than
physical passion, that an irregular union
can yield no deep and laSting satisfaction.
Unless love can be experienced in its entirety
and beauty, it is better foregone.

Is the path of such a foregoing a sad and
lonely one ? It can be far otherwise. Let
the love be offered up as a voluntary
sacrifice by the lower self to the higher self,

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27

and it will be found to bring not only peace,
but power. The magicians of old always
invoked their gods with sacrifice, and it is
by sacrifice that we invoke the higher
powers of the soul ; the love that is caft
aside may bring the bitterness of regret,
but the love that is laid upon the altar
of noble living brings a light that is all
its own.

It is not, however, in the hour of trial,
when emotion is at a white heat, that the
power to make such a sacrifice can be
found ; it does not lie in any ecftatic
emotion, but in the settled habit of the
mind, in an integrity which is part of the
fibre of the character. Let each man so
live that if he were suddenly called upon
as was St. Joseph, to take into his care the
Virgin Mother, she might reft secure in
his protection, undefiled even by thought,
and let each woman so live that the nobleft
soul might seek incarnation through her
body and come into the world undefiled.

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